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For parents on Tyneside

Your birth bag…

Whether you are planning on having your baby at home or in hospital, it can be useful to have a few things handy to help you feel more comfortable and calmer in labour.

Here’s the basics:

  • Birth ball
  • Pillow
  • Water & food to keep you both going, plus chocolate buttons and/or jelly babies for a quick energy boost
  • Blanket/dressing gown for comfort and warmth
  • Socks – in case your feet get cold
  • Relaxing music, especially if you have used it in pregnancy. An MP3 with headphones can be useful so you can focus and stay calm
  • A small fan and/or water spray to help you cool down
  • A straw to make drinking water easier
  • You birth preferences list, your maternity notes and any handouts to remind you of positions and breathing
  • Lip balm – your lips can become dry in labour, especially if you are using gas & air
  • Inflatable bath pillow – perfect for using in the birthing pool
  • Hair clips/bobbles if you have long hair
  • Some women also like to use Rescue Remedy to help keep them calm
  • Massage oil
  • TENS machine

This is by no means a set list, what did you find useful in labour…

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Homebirth

For some women, this is the only place to be – to labour and birth in their own environment, to feel relaxed and calm and to enable labour to flow.

 

Who can have a homebirth?

According to the Department of Health, women who are healthy, with healthy pregnancies and healthy babies are the ideal candidates for a homebirth because they are classed at low-risk of complications. However, even if you don’t match the ‘ideal’ criteria, you can still choose a homebirth but you may need to weigh up the potential risks by talking your situation through with your midwife and consultant.

If you would like to book a homebirth, just tell your community midwife during one of your antenatal appointments and she will make the arrangements. If you are considered high-risk, your midwife will refer you to a consultant to talk over your options.

 

What happens during a homebirth?

Your midwife will come out to you when you call to say you are in labour. If you are not in established labour, your midwife will leave you to progress in peace, and will come back when you need more support. This can be ideal because it saves you a journey to the hospital and you can continue to stay relaxed, which can encourage labour to flow.

For most of your labour, you will have one midwife with you and she will call another midwife for extra support when the birth of your baby is close.

 

What if I change my mind?

You can change your mind at anytime, in pregnancy or in labour. If a homebirth no longer seems the right option for you, you can go to hospital instead.

 

What if I need to go to hospital?

Your midwife will be monitoring you and your baby for any signs of labour moving away from ‘normal’. If she is unsure about how your labour is developing or about how your baby is handling the contractions, she may suggest a transfer to the hospital.

Thankfully, true emergencies in childbirth are rare and transfers into hospital are mainly due to a need for more pain relief or because labour is progressing slowly. Your midwife will arrange for an ambulance to take you to hospital.

 

Pain relief

The gas & air (entonox) cylinders will be delivered to your house and your midwife will bring along the equipment needed to use it. You can use gas & air throughout your labour.

You can also hire a birthing pool to use as additional pain relief and a  TENS machine can also be hired to use in labour.
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Is it safe?

According to a large Dutch study in 2009, a pregnant woman who is classified as being low-risk, giving birth at home is as safe as doing so in hospital with a midwife.

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How many women have a homebirth?

According to the Royal College of Midwives, more women want to book a homebirth than actually have homebirths. It could be a combination of fear, lack of support and medical issues that prevents more women from booking a homebirth.

Birthchoice UK states that:

  • in Wales about four in every 100 births are at home
  • in England about three in every 100 births are at home
  • in Scotland, about one in every 100 births is at home
  • in Northern Ireland, fewer than one in 200 births is at home

 

How do I prepare my home?

You really don’t need to do very much at all…

  • some parents like to use some plastic sheeting to protect their floor and furniture, others will just use some old newspaper and sheets
  • if you want a birth pool, you can hire one and have it ready to use when you are in labour
  • have a dressing down or blanket handy, in case you feel cold
  • A couple of buckets or plastic containers can be useful, in case you need to be sick
  • A desk light, so your midwife can check for any tears after your baby is born
  • Bin bags to quickly clear away rubbish and dirty linen after you have had your baby
  • Baby clothes and a blanket, which can be kept warm on a radiator
  • Food and drink – for you, your birth partner and for your midwives to snack on
  • Candles to create a relaxing environment to birth in

 

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Your comments

  • My main desire for homebirth was to be in my own bed snuggling with my daughter and hubs as soon as possible and not having hub sent away and leaving us alone. I ended up needing a hospital tranfer but everything was fine and went very smoothly and I was home very quickly afterward I would definately do it again though
  • I always wanted a home birth. My Mum had me and my brothers at home, so it felt normal. I hate the bright lights and the high beds and hard floors in the hospital, convienient to clean, but not great for labouring on all 4′s! The Newcastle midwives were brilliant, I had 2 at both labours and it was a fantastic and positive experience.
  • I planned a homebirth for both of my births. #1 I transferred in after a very long 2nd stage. I was out again within two hours and we came home and went to bed together – a family of three :-) )
    #2 was at home in water – only 20 minutes after the MW arrived. Pretty perfect actually :-) )
    For me, home is the default place to give birth. I’m confident in my body to birth and MWs to support that. If I/baby needed extra help, I trust the MWs to recognise that in plenty of time.
  • I had the most amazing home water birth. Relaxed, beautiful. A memory I will always treasure.
  • I had two straightforward and uneventful home water births. I would encourage women to make an educated decision but basically give birth wherever they feel comfortable. I wouldn’t have done it if I wasn’t convinced of the experience of the midwives and the fact that the hospital was very very close
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Beautiful Birth

 Each week I am going to add a link to a birth video to show how women move and sound in labour, how partners can provide support  and how quickly women can smile again after giving birth!

This one is just beautiful…

water birth

 

 

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6 ways to prepare for birth

1. Get your head ready

So you can feel calmer, better prepared and able to believe in your ability to birth your baby

 

2. Antenatal Classes

Book on to some good antenatal classes, where your partner can also gain information and find out more about support in labour.  Antenatal classes should just be about gaining information - good classes promote discussion, enable parents to ask questions, and they provide breathing skills and positions to aid rest and comfort in labour.

 

3. Read some good books

  • The Encyclopaedia of Pregnancy & Birth by Janet Balaskas and Yehudi Gordon
  • Homebirth by Nicky Wesson
  • Expecting by Daphne Metland & Anna McGrail
  • Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin
  • Spiritual Midwifery by Ina May Gaskin
  • Birth Your Way by Sheila Kitzinger
  • Pregnancy and Childbirth by Sheila Kitzinger

 

4. Decide where you are having your baby:

At home
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Wansbeck
North Tyneside Midwifery-led unit
QE

 

5. Maternity ward tour

If you are booking into hospital, it can be useful to visit your maternity unit. This visit can help you familiarize yourself with the unit, ask questions and to find out practical information such as parking and what happens when you go into the unit in labour.

 

6. Relax

A great way to prepare for labour and birth is to learn how to relax and let go of tension, so your body can do what it needs to do in labour. Focusing on relaxing your body helps you get to know how your body feels when it is tense and how it feels when you slow your breathing down and let go of any tension, stress or anxiety.

 

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Feeling safe and secure in labour

A labouring woman needs to feel safe, secure and reassured to contract and dilate and to stay positive. But what can we do to create a positive birth environment?

As mammals, we often like warm, secure and dark places to give birth and it is the feeling of security and confidence that is so important. The Royal College of Midwives states that: “If we can find ways to help labouring women feel more private and confident, we will greatly improve the likelihood of them having a normal birth.”

It can be beneficial to think about the birth environment, wherever you are planning on giving birth, and to give some thought to it with your partner during your pregnancy. 

Here are some simple ways to work towards a positive birth environment:

Create a nesting area
This might involve moving furniture around or using cushions and blankets. In hospital, you can move the bed to the side of the room to give you more space to move around and use mats, beanbags, cushions, blankets and birth balls to make yourself comfortable as you work with your contractions.

Adjust the lighting
At home you can use candles, tea lights, dimmer switches and fairy lights to make the room soft and calm. Your hospital room may have a dimmer switch or a lamp, which you can use to create a softer environment. If the room is bright with daylight, you can try using a blanket to give you a private space to labour in, away from the bright light.

Privacy
A labouring woman needs to feel free to move around, make noise and wear what is comfortable for her. Playing music can help and you might prefer to wear headphones if you feel disturbed by other noises.

Keep chat to a minimum
In early labour, being distracted by chat and laughter is useful but as your contractions intensify, these distractions will take more of your energy.  If you have a calm and relaxing space to labour in – dark and quiet or with calm music, people tend to talk less.

Surround yourself with familiar smells
Essential oils from pregnancy, especially if you have enjoyed a pregnancy massage or relaxation sessions, can help you to relax and, if you are in hospital, you might prefer to smell something from home, such as a pillow or throw.

Cover any clocks
Some labouring women don’t like having a clock reminding them of how long they have been in labour, and how long they may have to go. Instead focus on each contraction, be in the moment and go with the flow of your labour because it is going to take as long as it takes and a big clock in the room may provide unwanted stress. If you are at home, maybe cover it up or take your clock down. In hospital, you can ask for the clock to be covered up or labour with your back to it.

Care and nurturing
Women need to feel safe and looked after, they need to feel supported and not on their own. Your needs may change throughout labour and, while you may not appreciate too much fuss, a cuddle or a hand to hold, as well as caring words of encouragement, will go a very long way to helping you feeling safe and reassured.

 
Here’s what mums on Facebook and Twitter said last night when asked what helped them feel safe and secure in labour:

 

Blanket and big comfy socks
My husband
Having private space in the birth pool
My doula
Being left alone
Supportive midwife
Having the same midwife
Low lights
Music

Homeopathy
My partner
My husband’s t-shirt
My house, my things
Ambient lighting
Calmness
Imagining waves lapping over my feet
Water

 

Next week we will look at where to give birth and how to make that choice…

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