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Every now and then I write an update to remind parents across Tyneside about the Network practitioners and the range of support and services available for expectant and new parents…

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For expectant parents we have…

Aerobic Bumps with Debbie from Pushy Mothers

Aquanatal with Puddle Ducks

Chiropractic Care with Marie Allan and her team

Pregnancy Massage and/or Reflexology with Julia at Sanctuary House

Pilates with Clare Barnaby

Yoga with Clare Renwick

Antenatal Classes with Janine at Birth & Baby Basics

TENS Machine and Birth Pool Rental Service from Rebecca

 

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For new parents we have:

A Postnatal Doula service with Janine at Birth & Baby Basics

Postnatal Massage with Julia at Sanctuary House

Real Nappies and accessories with Aggie at Grow up Green

Baby Massage and Confident Mums courses with Janine at Birth & Baby Basics

Baby Sensory with Lisa, Donna and Heidi

Piccolo Music with Abi and her team

Puddle Ducks with Carolyn and her team

Pushy Mothers with Debbie

Aerobic Mums  and Hula Hooping Mums with Debbie from Pushy Mothers

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For older babies and toddlers

Toddler Sense with Ruth

Book Happy with Hannah and Cate

Piccolo Music with Abi and her team

Puddle Ducks with Carolyn and her team

There is also a range of information and articles for everything bump, birth and baby. I am also in the process of adding information about your growing baby – behaviour, development, food, toilet training and sleep.

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Also on the way…

Reviews

Diaries from expectant and new mums

Q&A sessions with Network practitioners

Birth Doula Practitioners

If you could keep spreading the word about the Network, that would be great, as it is a great free resource for local parents with a young family on Tyneside.

In addition to this website, there is also the Facebook Page and you can catch up on Twitter with Birth & Baby Network and Birth & Baby Basics so there’s plenty on offer for anyone with a bump, baby or toddler…


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Childbirth was the subject of another ‘celebrity’ article over the weekend. Dr Alice Roberts is a scientist and, as she is about to give birth to her second baby, has written about making the decision to have her baby in hospital, based on the science, on the facts.

It is a great article and she makes some valid points about making informed decisions and the importance of encouraging women to feel empowered about birth and being able to make choices. BUT there are a few issues I take issue with…

 

  •  “human childbirth has always been difficult and dangerous” – this fear of childbirth seems to be at the heart of this article because why would you want to birth at home if you feared the process and needed the reassurance of having a managed labour:  “I was very happy with the way that the birth of my first baby was handled in a maternity unit.”I don’t challenge anyone who births in hospital but neither do I challenge anyone who books a homebirth but the tone of this article is to make homebirthers feel like they have made a selfish, ill-thought out decision. However, in my experience anyone who books a homebirth has researched it to death and everything has been read, discussed and analysed again and again.
  •  “Another problem is the politics of birth. It can be quite hard for mums-to-be to access impartial evidence and advice when it seems there are plenty of people wanting to influence your decision in one way or the other.”I refer you to my previous comment because, yes there are midwives, antenatal teachers and other maternity professionals who are passionate about homebirth and will promote it and suggest it but, in my experience, women are not going to book a homebirth if it is not what they want, if it doesn’t feel safe or right for them. It is hugely patronising to suggest that women who book a homebirth are somehow stupid – they don’t do it on the say-so of one person.
  • “Evangelical advocates of home birth often talk about the importance of women’s choice and empowerment, as well as instilling distrust in obstetricians.”

    I am passionate about women having options for the birth of their baby and about women making decisions based on the right place for them to give birth. In my work as an antenatal teacher I want to empower women and their partners to believe in their ability to birth their baby and to be involved in decisions if the need arises. Personally I do not distrust obstetricians but they simply are not needed in a normal, straightforward birth. Their skills and experience need to be used if labour does become more complicated and medical intervention is needed – until that point, the midwife is all the team you need.

  • “I’m not scared of hospitals, and I also know that, however calming the home environment might be, I’ll feel even calmer in hospital.”

    And this is why women need to make the right decision for them about the birth of their baby, where they feel safe and calm, and to be supported in this decision. This could be on an obstetric unit, in a birthing centre or at home.

  • “The Birthplace study found that about four in 10 first-time mums who planned a home birth or birth in a midwife-led unit had to be transferred to hospital during labour, whereas about one in 10 women having second or subsequent births were transferred.”

    I have had two homebirths, which were well researched decisions. I trusted my midwife and her homebirth experience and knowledge, as well as my ability to birth my babies. I knew there was a chance that I might want/need to transfer but it was a risk I was prepared to take and I would happily have transferred into hospital if I needed to. For me, I knew I would feel calmer at home with my husband, midwife, gas & air and pool – and I was.

    I have also had a hospital birth, which I needed because I was classified as high-risk and it was the safest place to give birth to my baby, as we knew he would need care as soon as he was born. I still had a straightforward, active birth but the atmosphere was different and there were more doctors who wanted to be involved – however I had a fiesty midwife who knew I was doing ok, who was checking my baby and who told the doctors that she would get them if my labour moved away from being straightforward. She observed and supported me and let me get on with it but I knew she was there if I needed her.

  •  “But surely the most important thing to consider when making this choice has to be the safety of both mother and baby.”I agree that a healthy mum and baby is important but a healthy mum is not just about physical health, it is about emotional health as well. Women want to feel safe, supported and reassured in labour, they want to feel empowered and listened to, which is why choosing home or a birthing centre is the best option for some expectant parents and it is wrong to suggest that anyone who books a homebirth is making a selfish, ill-informed decision and putting their baby at risk. There is risk with everything we do and birthing in hospital does not make it completely risk free.

To me birth can be magical and beautiful, as well as powerful, painful and intense. All three of my birth experiences have caused me to dig deep to enable me to keep going, to stay calm and allow my body to birth my babies. I have been supported by excellent midwives, as well as my excellent, calm husband.

I am not someone who believes that birth is automatically difficult and dangerous, I just don’t think nature would have designed us that way. Given the right environment, support and reassurance women can and will birth their baby. And, if pregnancy or labour does become complicated, then the medical interventions and the skills of the doctors and midwives save lives and I am thankful for them. However, as a medicalised culture we very much view birth as something that needs to be managed and handled by midwives and doctors, our confidence and belief in our bodies and our ability to birth our babies has been knocked sideways. When labour is uncomplicated, we need observation and support to feel safe and reassured, to enable us to let our bodies get on with it and birth our babies. Interventions need to be left alone until they are needed, not seen as being a necessary part of everyone’s labour experience.

Thankfully most of us will be classified as low risk, with uncomplicated pregnancies, so we have more options about where we birth our babies. This article has raised an important issue for me – it talks about gathering information and making an informed choice about home or hospital but I also think it is just as important to gather information and make an informed choice about which hospital to give birth in. They are not all the same – find out about the facilities, check out their statistics, ask friends and colleagues who have given birth locally, talk to your midwife, talk to your antenatal teacher and go on a tour of your local maternity units.

That way you can get the support you need to help you work towards a positive birth experience, which includes your emotional health as well as your physical wellbeing.

There is nothing wrong with Alice Robert’s approach to childbirth in that it works for her, but it won’t work for everyone because birth isn’t simply about facts, figures and science it is also about instinct, hormones and emotions and that is what makes it such a unique experience for us all.


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Being fat and pregnant

In an ideal world we would all eat less and exercise more and, as I fat person, I know it’s not good to be obese but being fat and pregnant is now a cause of concern for women as well as for the NHS.

  • If you have a BMI over 30 (classed as obese but, my god, I know some fit and active people who have a BMI of about 30) you tick the obese box which means that you may need closer attention throughout your pregnancy.
  • If your BMI is over 35, your options for place of birth change – a birthing centre is no longer possible and you may have a fight on your hands for a homebirth. Chances are you will also be placed under Consultant Care, rather than just seeing your community midwife, and you will also be offered an appointment with an anaesthetist to discuss management of labour – some maternity units recommend citing an epidural earlier in labour ‘just in case’

You will be offered to be weighed at your booking appointment, to have your BP checked and to be closely screened for diabetes and pre-eclampsia during your pregnancy.

The complaints from some of my clients is that they feel, because they are overweight, they are automatically treated as a risk to be managed. Some women are handled sensitively and others are terrified with the potential risks of being fat and pregnant.

The risks can include:

  • Gestational diabetes (3x as likely than if a BMI is below 30)
  • High blood pressure
  • Pre-eclampsia (doubled if BMI is over 35)
  • Bigger baby weighing more than 8lb 14oz  if BMI is 30+ (14% risk compared to 7% in women with a BMI of 20-30)
  • Shoulder dystocia
  • Emergency c-section, which could be complicated and harder to recover from
  • Issues with anaesthetic

I am not denying at all that there could be some risks associated with being obese and pregnant but some common sense and individualised care also needs to be put into place – as I am sure it is in places but, judging by the feedback from some of my clients, it is not standard care. The risks may increase but, if my understanding of the research is correct, these risks still remain very low.

And, from a common sense perspective, I am not surprised that complications can arise in birth if overweight women are treated as a risk, made to feel that they can’t do it, given early epidurals and remain stuck on a bed.

If women develop pre-eclampsia and diabetes, then those issues can be managed to reduce the risks for both mum and baby but, if women remain in good health, then why not support, encourage and reassure them that they can birth their baby?

Here’s what you can do to take some control

If  you are overweight and planning a baby, it can be beneficial to think about your weight and lifestyle to improve your health and strength before pregnancy and to reduce the chances of being treated like a risk. And it’s got to be worth it just to give yourself more options for the birth of your baby.

 

And if you are pregnant with a high BMI, you can work to reduce the potential risks by:

  • eating well with plenty of fresh fruit and veg (more than your 5 a day), cutting down on sugars and processed foods  BUT DON’T STARVE YOURSELF. It’s about trying to eat sensibly, which could mean you don’t put on any weight and it could reduce the risk of developing diabetes and making a bigger baby. I know, I know easier said than done but it’s sound advice and we have to start somewhere. It’s also worth writing down what you eat in an average day – I was shocked at how much I snacked and when it was written down in front of me, I couldn’t deny it!

 

  • Continuing  with any exercise/walking/swimming or starting to bring some gentle exercise into your life. Through the Network you can contact Debbie at Aerobic Bumps and we also have pregnancy yoga and pilates, along with aquanatal. It’s not the time to have a regime but regular gentle exercise can help your energy levels, make you feel better and improve your strength and stamina.
  • Go to some good antenatal classes because it is so worth the investment to prepare for how you can manage your contractions, how to use positions to stay comfortable and supported, how to be assertive when you need to be and how to use your breathing to ease anxiety, to stay calm and in control.

As a fat woman I know it isn’t as easy as “eat less, move more” and I know all too well the comfort that that the couch, cake and chocolate can bring when I feel like crap BUT pregnancy can be a time of reflection and of looking at the small things that can be changed because the small changes could just make a big difference to your pregnancy, to the birth of your baby and how it is managed.

 

 Links to further support:

Babycentre – plus-size-and-pregnant

Royal College of Midwives

Some of the comments I received yesterday:

  • the only thing that worries my about my care is how medically-led the birth will be purely because of my bmi
  • I’m under a consultant because of bmi but no one has weighed me since booking appt. Feels like box ticking mostly
  • I’ve been made to feel like a second class citizen lately – only told about said policies at 34 weeks so it’s been rather a shock (I’m now 36 weeks) It appears I slipped through the net because I was having a healthy pregnancy despite having a higher than average BMI (my midwife didn’t refer me to consultant) I too have a thick skin & it’s just as well really as the way you get spoken to is quite disgraceful.
  • Women I meet who are fat (I’m fat, so I hope it’s okay to use that word, it’s how I describe myself) have usually been scared to death at their first appointment.. you will need an epidural.. you have a billion fold increase in needing a caesarean.. your baby is at risk.. How does fear help anyone to have a better outcome?!
  • it’s hard because women need to be made aware of the risks, but in a non judgemental way, with support to manage their weight. That requires time though…
  •  Every time I went to the hospital there was at least one sideways comment about the fact that I am a bit fat.
  • I suffer from PCOS and have had to go on a serious diet to lose weight in order to get pregnant. A diet which links in with insulin resistance etc linked to the hormonal imbalance of PCOS. However once pregnant the diet doesn’t work anymore – the reduction in certain foods makes me ill and feel weak. Therefore the weight piles on again in the first few months. However trying to explain this is usually met with a smirk and leaflets about eating fruit and veg.

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Your 3rd trimester – From 28 weeks

This could be the time when you well and truly feel like you are making a human being, as your bump gets bigger and your baby kicks and wriggles. It can be a great time to bond with your baby.

How you might be feeling?

  • You could be enjoying those wriggles and kicks from your baby
  • There may be more aches and pains in your back and hips as your body changes to accommodate your growing baby
  • Your tiredness could return as your body adapts to carrying the extra weight of your weight and amniotic fluid. You may also find that your sleep is being affected as you struggle to get comfortable and you may need frequent trips to the loo at night as well
  • Some pregnant women start to feel sick again – this could be linked to your tiredness and/or any indigestion as your expanding womb means there’s less room in your stomach
  • Your growing womb can also lead to heartburn
  • You might feel breathless, as there can be less room for your lungs to expand. But when your baby starts to settle into your pelvis, this should ease
  • You might start to experience Braxton Hicks contractions – mild tightenings of your uterus, which are thought to help your body prepare for labour

What’s happening in your body?

Your baby is growing, growing, growing – starting to get fat, his brain is growing too so your baby’s head will be getting bigger. He will grow from about 36cm long to about 51cm at birth and his weight can go from about 1.5lbs to 7.5lbs at birth – although this will vary a lot.

His lungs will maturing during the third trimester so he can breathe for himself when he is born. His liver and kidneys also develop and he will start to open his eyes.

You may experience…

Backache
You will be producing the hormone Relaxin, which help to soften the pelvic joints and ligaments in preparation for the birth of your baby. This can be the cause of some backache – it can be worth seeing a chiropractor to ease any discomfort.

 

Stretchmarks
Not everyone gets stretchmarks and some pregnant women will only start to get them right at the end of their pregnancy.

According to Daphne Metland from Babycentre: there’s no real way to prevent stretchmarks, although you can minimise them by eating well, trying not to gain too much weight and drinking plenty of water.

Carpal Tunnel Syndrome
About 50% of pregnant women will experience Carpal Tunnel Syndrome some pain and/or tingling in their hands, with numbness in the fingers. It is thought to be caused by swelling which puts pressure on the median nerve.

Itchy skin
It can be quite normal for some women to experience a mild degree of itchy skin, especially on the bump as their skin stretches. However, it is always important to get this checked out with your midwife, GP or pop into your pregnancy assessment unit just in case it is Obstetric Cholestasis, which is a rare but serious condition.

 

Swelling
Swelling in your ankles and your hands is really common in the third trimester, especially towards the end of the day when you are tired and you may have been on your feet a fair bit. If you are concerned about it or if the swelling is sudden or starts to affect your legs, hands and or face – get it checked out, just in case it is pre-elampsia.

A range of emotions
Your emotions can range from happiness and excitement to feeling scared and uncertain about the birth of your baby. You might be teary and you could be volatile with changing mood swings.

Tiredness and lack of decent sleep can have an affect but if you feel low, it is worth mentioning it to your midwife as it is possible to feel depressed in pregnancy.

It can also be worth looking at how well you are eating, whether you are stressed with work, whether you are anxious due to a previous birth experience? Talking it through with someone can be really useful, which is why going to some good antenatal classes, where you will have the time to ask questions, is worth the investment.

 

Your midwife appointments

  • These take place at about 28 weeks, 31 weeks, 34 weeks, 36 weeks, 38 weeks, 40 weeks and at 41 weeks, if your baby hasn’t arrived by then
  • They will involve routine tests – checking your blood pressure and your urine, measuring your bump and listening to your baby’s heartbeat
  • You will be offered a blood test to rule out gestational diabetes
  • The position of your baby is checked – making sure he’s not breech or lying sideaway across your abdomen

Also…

This is the time to think about:

  • writing your Birth Plan
  • attending antenatal classes - don’t worry about leaving it late as I never turn anyone away, I have waiting lists and I am flexible so I can provide one to one sessions or run additional sessions
  • dealing with any anxiety, especially if it is to do with the birth of your baby. I can provide support through one to one sessions or through my antenatal classes
  • hiring your TENS machine and, if you are planning a homebirth, you may need to book a birth pool too

Tips to help you in the 3rd trimester

  • Eat well
  • Drink plenty of water
  • Get plenty of rest
  • Listen to your body and rest when you need to
  • Get checked out if you feel unwell, if something changes or if you are concerned about your baby

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According to the Royal College of Midwives pregnant women in the UK are feeling unsupported with little opportunity to see a regular midwife throughout their pregnancy.

The RCM states that 4 in 10 women see up to 10 midwives during their pregnancy – that’s a different one per visit, which prevents women from building up a relationship and confidence in one midwife. This could potentially have an effect on choosing a homebirth or just feeling reassured and informed throughout their pregnancy.

In 2011, the birth-rate in the UK was 808,000 and midwives are now stretched with busy workloads.

Tips to get the support you need…

  1. I can’t ensure you see the same midwife throughout your pregnancy and neither can you but if you need information and reassurance – go with a list of questions to help you feel confident and less flustered, especially if your midwife is busy.
  2. Book onto to some good antenatal classes – your antenatal teacher can provide the time to listen and answer your questions to help you feel more informed, reassured and supported as you prepare for the birth of your baby.
  3. Book a doula – for ongoing support and information throughout your pregnancy. A doula will not provide medical support and will not replace the visits to your midwife but she can provide continuity of care with information and reassurance to help you prepare for the birth of your baby.
  4. If you ever feel that something isn’t quite right with you or your baby – get it checked out! Either see your community midwife or go to your local Pregnancy Assessment Unit. You will not be wasting anyone’s time and it is important to either pick up any potential problem or to provide you with reassurance.


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